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Friday, March 13 2015

Dear Friends...

We are prone to worry. And if you are a parent, like me, you are probably prone to worry most about your kids, no matter what age they are.

As I sit down to write, I’m aware that for many of you your ‘kids’ are on Spring Break. I reflect back to when my daughters were in college (oh my, I’m starting to feel oldJ), and what that time was like for me. There were some sleepless nights, that’s for sure. There were many thoughts racing through my head…. what is really going on… who are they REALLY with… did I teach them enough about safety and making good choices…maybe I need to text them or call them?

I remember being confronted with the very real reality that I was NOT in control when my youngest decided to attend a college in California and chose not to stay in Georgia. Now, I’m gaining some respect, right? I hear  “Aww” and “Oh my’” coming from many of your hearts. (Thank you). However, many of you have a different response, “So what? I had to send my kid off to war” or “Mine studied over seas or went on a mission”. Our situations may be different, but the same stark reality hits us all…we are NOT in control.

I also vividly recall a conversation I was in with other moms regarding our college aged kids and someone responded, “Well, we are Moms. We HAVE to worry.” “Really?”  I thought, “Is that part of our job description?”

Many of you are now screaming at me “Of course Angel, it is. How could we NOT worry?”

I agree. I agree. I agree. BUT God asks us not to stay in the place of worry. Take a look at what He says to us through the Apostle Paul:


"Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus." Phillippians 4:6-7

I love these verses! In fact God showed me that they are one of His “Anti-Anxiety” prescriptions:

Our Part:

  1. Instead of worrying, pray. (He knows we humans are prone to worryJ).
  2. Ask for what you need. (Isn’t that cool that He let’s us ask firstJ)
  3. Remember what He’s done for you in the in past. (Where have you seen Him at work in your kids’ lives before? Remember when He’s given you wisdom or truth in the past. Or look at scriptures and see what He did for others when they were worried or afraid

His Part:

His promise: "My Peace will guard your heart and mind."

Then, don’t stop there. In verse 8, He instructs us on how to keep the peace He gives us:

"And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise." Philippians 4:8


As parents, you know when you say the ‘final thing’ to your kid; it is usually the most important! So let’s heed God’s final word to us about worry. Start spending our energy FOCUSING on GOOD THOUGHTS! Remember the truths of who He is; what He’s done; His character; and attributes.

Whether your kids are close to home or far away, the reality is we are not in control. Worry alerts us that we have an opportunity to “Let Go and Let God.” We have the opportunity to exercise our faith muscles and trust God as the ultimate good parent who watches over them and can care for them better than we ever imagined.

How about we use the Anti-Anxiety prescription and practice faith through prayer and see where that leads?

Remember, they were His idea and His children first. And He loves them more than we ever could. We can rest in that!

Blessings~ Angel

 

 

Posted by: Angel H Davis AT 08:45 am   |  Permalink   |  Email

Benefits of Weariness

 

WOW! How weary I am. And so are many of you. I know because I hear your cries: in my office, on the phone, online, in church, at the grocery store, you name it! So much of what I hear from people today is about how tired, weary, and worn-out they feel.

Then again, you may not feel weary;  instead you may feel anxious, depressed, scared, lonely, angry, or any mixture of these emotions. Perhaps these are more your prominent feelings.

 

However you may feel, it’s too easy to look for the source or to find blame: social media; busy schedules; technology; work/family demands; the causes are endless. Of course, these have validity, and we can certainly manage them in more appropriate and successful ways.

 

Yet, as I sit with God today, in my quiet time, and look over my journals, what I see is the benefit of weariness—the benefit of our broken feelings and situations.

 I see, time and time again, over the years (yes, I am rebellious and slow-learning, and God is very, very patient), God working in me and through me, enabling me to receive His antidote to this tough life and all of its problems. 

 

It is so simple; and yet it is so hard.

 

It is HIM: Jesus; always more of Him.

 

“But,” you say, “Angel, I have to know what to do with my children,” or, “Angel, these bills are piling up,” or, “Angel, you don’t have a CLUE of how bad it really is.”

 

And I will say, “You are right, I don’t. And you are correct, these things need to be taken care of.” 

 

BUT FIRST, we have a larger need. Oh, the catch is it doesn’t appear like the larger need. Our core need, before bills, children, purpose in life, change in our feelings, is to be convinced, truly convinced and accepting of God’s love for us and our identity as His children.

 

And your heart and head may rebel like mine did.

 

“BUT, I need to know the answer to my problem.” 

And Jesus says:

“I am the answer.”

“I am so tired.”

And Jesus says:

“I know. Let me restore you.”

“I am afraid.”

And Jesus says:

“I know, and my love will take care of that.”

 

That just doesn’t seem like much; doesn’t seem like enough, when we are about to be evicted or our kids are in harm’s way. That support just doesn’t seem practical enough for our human brains to rest on.

 

Perhaps then we’ve hit on the real source or problem of our weariness: ourselves. You and me believing that if we work hard enough, try enough, worry enough, take enough time to figure it out, talk enough to that person, ignore it long enough—whatever your “enough” is—WE can fix it. The true problem is that it’s all about US!

 

We want to stay in the driver’s seat and be our own savior. Or we look to other humans to be that for us. If we believe our answer lies in us or other humans, we are likely to stay in that “out of control” anxious space, and the weariness or depression or addictions are bound to take over. There can only be one driver in our car of life.

 

The benefit of our struggle is to be wooed into the true solution. Life’s struggles are an invitation to know God more intimately. As we allow Jesus, who is ALIVE, who is the same yesterday, today, and forever, to become more real for us, more tangible, as we take Him at His word (Hebrews 13:5), as we choose to focus on Him and His promises, instead of the problems or feelings we are having, then we start to experience the reality of His presence with us.  With this, we begin to experience the peace He promises.


Why? Because our problems have been solved? The bills have all been paid? The feelings change?


NO…  peace comes from HIS presence. And in that place of peace we can see clearer, hear more accurately, and receive wisdom and direction.

 

As we “bend our knee” to Jesus’ love, dare to take Him at His word (John 3:16), choose to look to Him and depend on Him, and keep (John 17) depending on Him, then His life-blood starts to flow through us. It revives us, directs us, and transforms our thinking and feelings. Then life and all of its troubles, which are many (John 16:33), become manageable, doable.

 

Breath comes; rest comes; peace comes.

 

In this place new life springs forth. New ideas emerge and joy is eventually restored.

 

Struggling today? Rejoice in it, because it is calling you back home. Home to His heart of love (Romans 8:38-39), the place of true peace and rest. 

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