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Thursday, July 17 2014

Relationships…they are so complicated!  

Even the best relationship will have struggles, but if we are prepared for the battles then we have a better chance of a healthy outcome.

Here are a few tips to keep in mind...

Put God into the center of your relationship.

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33

Check your expectations; they can set you up for disappointment.

“This is what the LORD says: ‘Cursed are those who put their trust in mere humans and turn their hearts away from the LORD’.” Jeremiah 17:5

Your partner cannot fix your heart. Only God can.

“He heals the brokenhearted, binding up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3

A healthy relationship is about the Kingdom of God, not the Kingdom of Self.

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” Philippians 2:3

Honor, love and cherish your partner.  Each should submit to the other. Our motivation to do so is our love for Christ!

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21

Understand that your only perfect partner is Jesus Christ. Your human partner will never be perfect.

“For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin, so that we could be made right with God through Christ.” 2 Corinthians 5:21

Offer grace and forgiveness. This protects our heart more and keeps us humble.

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,” James 1:19

Our trials are meant to grow us and bring us closer to our Creator. Look through the storm and focus on the “big picture” that God is working out.

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.  Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” James 1:2-4

Resting in Christ’s love and power brings clarity and security.

“The fear of the Lord leads to life; 
 then one rests content, untouched by trouble.” Proverbs 19:23

God commands us to love one another.  Allowing ourselves to receive God’s love is the key to fulfilling this command!

"My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” John 15:12

One more (just for good measure):

Treat others (including your spouse) with the attitude that you would want to be treated. You reap what you sow!

“And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” James 3:18

Remember, God’s ways are the BEST ways, even when our flesh cries out to do the opposite. 

Cling to Him, depend on His strength to follow through…He promises you will be blessed!

But He said, “Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and keep it!” Luke 11:28

 

Posted by: Angel H Davis AT 08:00 pm   |  Permalink   |  0 Comments  |  Email
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Benefits of Weariness

 

WOW! How weary I am. And so are many of you. I know because I hear your cries: in my office, on the phone, online, in church, at the grocery store, you name it! So much of what I hear from people today is about how tired, weary, and worn-out they feel.

Then again, you may not feel weary;  instead you may feel anxious, depressed, scared, lonely, angry, or any mixture of these emotions. Perhaps these are more your prominent feelings.

 

However you may feel, it’s too easy to look for the source or to find blame: social media; busy schedules; technology; work/family demands; the causes are endless. Of course, these have validity, and we can certainly manage them in more appropriate and successful ways.

 

Yet, as I sit with God today, in my quiet time, and look over my journals, what I see is the benefit of weariness—the benefit of our broken feelings and situations.

 I see, time and time again, over the years (yes, I am rebellious and slow-learning, and God is very, very patient), God working in me and through me, enabling me to receive His antidote to this tough life and all of its problems. 

 

It is so simple; and yet it is so hard.

 

It is HIM: Jesus; always more of Him.

 

“But,” you say, “Angel, I have to know what to do with my children,” or, “Angel, these bills are piling up,” or, “Angel, you don’t have a CLUE of how bad it really is.”

 

And I will say, “You are right, I don’t. And you are correct, these things need to be taken care of.” 

 

BUT FIRST, we have a larger need. Oh, the catch is it doesn’t appear like the larger need. Our core need, before bills, children, purpose in life, change in our feelings, is to be convinced, truly convinced and accepting of God’s love for us and our identity as His children.

 

And your heart and head may rebel like mine did.

 

“BUT, I need to know the answer to my problem.” 

And Jesus says:

“I am the answer.”

“I am so tired.”

And Jesus says:

“I know. Let me restore you.”

“I am afraid.”

And Jesus says:

“I know, and my love will take care of that.”

 

That just doesn’t seem like much; doesn’t seem like enough, when we are about to be evicted or our kids are in harm’s way. That support just doesn’t seem practical enough for our human brains to rest on.

 

Perhaps then we’ve hit on the real source or problem of our weariness: ourselves. You and me believing that if we work hard enough, try enough, worry enough, take enough time to figure it out, talk enough to that person, ignore it long enough—whatever your “enough” is—WE can fix it. The true problem is that it’s all about US!

 

We want to stay in the driver’s seat and be our own savior. Or we look to other humans to be that for us. If we believe our answer lies in us or other humans, we are likely to stay in that “out of control” anxious space, and the weariness or depression or addictions are bound to take over. There can only be one driver in our car of life.

 

The benefit of our struggle is to be wooed into the true solution. Life’s struggles are an invitation to know God more intimately. As we allow Jesus, who is ALIVE, who is the same yesterday, today, and forever, to become more real for us, more tangible, as we take Him at His word (Hebrews 13:5), as we choose to focus on Him and His promises, instead of the problems or feelings we are having, then we start to experience the reality of His presence with us.  With this, we begin to experience the peace He promises.


Why? Because our problems have been solved? The bills have all been paid? The feelings change?


NO…  peace comes from HIS presence. And in that place of peace we can see clearer, hear more accurately, and receive wisdom and direction.

 

As we “bend our knee” to Jesus’ love, dare to take Him at His word (John 3:16), choose to look to Him and depend on Him, and keep (John 17) depending on Him, then His life-blood starts to flow through us. It revives us, directs us, and transforms our thinking and feelings. Then life and all of its troubles, which are many (John 16:33), become manageable, doable.

 

Breath comes; rest comes; peace comes.

 

In this place new life springs forth. New ideas emerge and joy is eventually restored.

 

Struggling today? Rejoice in it, because it is calling you back home. Home to His heart of love (Romans 8:38-39), the place of true peace and rest. 

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